I recently read the book "He's Just Not That Into You" (it is also a movie, by the way). It really made me realize some important things, things that I wish I would have known earlier in life, and things that I feel every girl should learn BEFORE starting to date.
The most important thing I learned from the whole book: YOU ARE WORTH IT! If a guy is truly into you, and will be good enough for you, he will make time for you. NO MATTER WHAT!
Excuses are just that, they are excuses. Most times, "I have been really busy" just means "I am not that into you". Yes, sometimes he REALLY is busy, but it takes 5 minutes to call someone and tell them you are still thinking about them, and about 10 seconds to text and say the same thing. It is really not that hard. If he wants to be with you, and is interested in you, he will make sure you know. He will not lead you on and then disappear, he will not "forget" to call, he will be there when he says he will, do what he says he is going to.
Bottom line, any guy who makes you question where you stand in his life, is not worth your time and you would be better off just moving on to a guy who will be open and honest with you and you will not have to question a single thing.
Too many girls, including myself, settle for whatever they can find. Most times, that is FAR from the best they can do and far from what they deserve. A lot of them do it just because they are sick of feeling lonely. I know, I have been there, more times than I would like to admit. I am finally learning.
A good friend of my mom's told me to write out a list of things that I look for in a guy, and expect out of a relationship, and to stick to it no matter what comes my way. I feel like that is probably the best dating advice I have ever gotten, and more than likely the best I will ever get. So, that is what I am going to do. It may take a while, but I will find someone who will treat me the way that I deserve to be treated and will love me the way that no one ever has before.
My message to girls out there who are having trouble finding a guy to treat her right: do NOT try to rush anything, that will always end in disaster. Take your time. Figure out exactly what you want and do not settle for the first guy who makes you giggle, wait for the one who makes everything make sense and is everything you have ever wanted.
My list:
Not completed, but those are the basics. Don't judge my list :P
